While judgmentalism and shame are to be avoided, finding orderly ways to function together can be helpful to everyone. What makes this “order” good, though, isn’t that it is orderly. It’s that it is c...  Read More

When a person’s experience with politeness is associated with a feeling of shame (or the fear of that feeling), something is wrong. Those who were meant to be polite have decided to be nothing but jud...  Read More

You don’t have to look very closely at the current state of affairs to guess that “politics” and “politeness” have nothing to do with each other, but it is true. Though they share a lot of letters, th...  Read More

Fascinatingly, "recognition" can mean two different things in English. First, it can be about comparison. Recognition, when connected to words like legacy, achievement, or accomplishment can be the th...  Read More

If the conversation can move past the idea of "I win when I'm correct," it can start to move toward the resounding reason that God created conversation in the first place: "We win when we connect." Tr...  Read More

The very idea of a competition between "right" and "wrong" only exists now, on earth. This matters for two reasons. When you're exhausted by it, you can find some hope and comfort in knowing that any ...  Read More

It's not unusual to value being right—but being right is not the goal. Knowing what is right is—at best—a means to something much better. Truth-for-the-sake-of-truth ignores the fact that there are pe...  Read More

There are a lot of ways to see people better. Where there is darkness, there is opportunity for light. Let this encourage you when things seem darkest—and should they seem to get even darker, remember...  Read More

If darkness is obfuscation for the purpose of separation, light is clarity for the purpose of unity. The true light—the light unadulterated by any hint of darkness, is the light that unites. The ultim...  Read More

Darkness and its awful results are here, now. Every person on earth interacts with them constantly—but the darkness is not all there is. There is also light, and in the battle between light and darkne...  Read More

What is darkness? What does it look like? Darkness is obfuscation—it makes things that should be able to be seen hard to see. It makes for confusion and questions and incorrectness and unclarity. More...  Read More

To care for someone is a gift that can’t be earned. Enjoy it wisely. Consider this ice breaker question to get started.Do you prefer online classes or in-person? See what this Spotlight—and series— is...  Read More